#NotAshamedOfInfertility

Let's talk about something we don't like to talk about.  

Infertility...Say it out loud.  Shout it even.  And what happens is that people get uncomfortable.

We don't want to talk about it.  We don't want to mention it to those we see every day. Those that do know that you struggle with it might try to make you feel better about it with kind words and optimism.  Some days, those that struggle with it feels that it defines them.  It feels like it runs their lives.  They are the man or woman that can't make/carry/have a baby.  And in the end, we feel ashamed.  

We can't have what our heart desires.  We can't give our spouse what they desire.  

And with those thoughts it is so easy to feel that we are alone, even with our spouse walking right beside us.  We feel that there is no one out there that understands our pain, our struggle, our journey.  

To be honest, there are days that I want to climb to the very top of a mountain and scream at the top of my lungs.  IT'S NOT FAIR!  WHY ME? WHY US? WHY CAN'T WE HAVE A CHILD WHEN THERE ARE CHILDREN BEING KILLED, ABUSED, AND NEGLECTED BY UNFIT PARENTS?  WHY IS IT THAT DRUNK TEENAGERS CAN GET PREGNANT, WHEN WE CAN'T?

But I realized something.  Maybe we aren't going through this because of something we did or because it will help us grow (though it will).  Maybe we are going through this because we need to understand what someone else is going through.  

Isn't that what Jesus did for us?  

It wasn't that God needed to know what it was like to hunger, thirst, or need sleep.  But He, in His infinite wisdom, sent His Son down to Earth to learn what it meant to be human, to understand our struggles.  

Now, I am in NO WAY trying to compare myself to Jesus.  I'm a pessimistic, smart-mouthed, anxious, and sometimes mean, person.  I struggle with my sins just like anyone else.  But what I am trying to see is the bigger picture: That though the struggle seems unfair and though the journey seems long, maybe Mike and I are traveling it because there is someone else out there who needs us to truly understand.  

Know that where ever you find yourself today, no matter what struggles you are facing, we are there for you.  We might not be on the same journey, we might not be experiencing the same things, but know that you aren't alone.  

#NotAshamedOfInfertility #TellYourStory

Cana